Try To Be A Little Kinder

Hello dear hearts,

There are some things I’ve discovered along my path these past months that might resonate with you.

All summer I’ve been slowing down after a long period of pushing forward, including spending the entire month of May in Italy hosting two retreats.

When I returned from Italy in June, I felt completely knackered physically and emotionally.

Sort of like a wet noodle zapped from head to toe.

I had lots of foot/knee/hip pain to deal with as I was still just 8 months post leg break and surgery.

I couldn’t predict how I would feel traveling in Europe for a month in that stage of my recovery.

Even though I had wonderful staff helping me on both retreats, there were things that happened that taught me big lessons on impermanence.

I put my whole self into planning all of May, strategizing with numerous guides and experts about the best ways to care for my guests. A labor of love for sure. And I do love this work!

Diving in and planning for months. My biggest intention was to make it all beautiful/soulful/just what everyone desired. A place for people to grow, heal, and transform. To remember how to dream.

I have an almost childlike love of Italy. I’ve been changed by going there and I believe the sacred energy of the land is stunning.

To me Italy, particularly Tuscany is nirvana. It’s a reprieve from routine, a spiritual oasis.

My life vision is to share that.

But I do have to deal with uncertainty and disappointment being a leader of retreats. It’s always crushing but it’s part of the work. Sometimes when people retreat, stuff comes up and emotions are triggered because whatever emotional place we’re in will show up.

Carl Jung said that as life goes on, we don’t so much solve our problems as we simply outgrow them.

We gain new insights and develop new maturity and that simply shrinks the magnitude of the problem, so it isn’t as bothersome as it once was.

I wish we could all know and remember that when we’re suffering. It’s never easy to surrender to our own growth and truth when we’re in deep change.

When things fall apart, it’s often not about us personally or anything we’ve done or not done.

Repeat. It’s not about me.

We’re always learning to live into our own loving kindness.

The only way I can do any of this work is to show up as me. I can only be me.

Does any of this sound familiar?

Of course it does.

Because it’s all of us.

Our life is just practice and we’re all practicing together.

These basic truths are why I’m so passionate about teaching Loving Kindness.

When we can learn how to be kind to ourselves we can be kinder to others.

One of the leading intellectuals of the 20th century, Aldous Huxley, wrote
more than 20 books, including Brave New World.

In his later years he made a surprising confession.

It’s a bit embarrassing to have been concerned with the human problem
all one’s life and find at the end that one has no more to offer by way of
advice than “Try to be a little kinder.”

Yes Aldous, I concur.

For me, for you, for all of us, let’s keep trying to be a little kinder.

XO

Jane